Abusers rely on the social isolation of their partner as well as the discomfort of the partner’s loved ones to talk about the violence. You can help your loved one by being the person who stands up and offers support.

  1. Don’t be scared to have an honest conversation in person – you do not know if their partner is monitoring their phone or email

  2. Offer your support without judgement or criticism of your loved one or the abuser

  3. Tell them you are concerned for their safety and want to make sure they know they have options and help is available through The Julian Center – even if they are still in the relationship

  4. Do not be confrontational – respect their decisions and even their anger; they need to know they can still come to you

  5. Tell them that it does not change how you view them or how much you value them

If you think someone you love is in a violent relationship, talk with them and offer to help them find resources they may need. Let them know you believe them and tell them about our text/phone line: 463-201-2792 to talk with an advocate (if someone is in immediate danger, call 911) or you can send us a referral to reach out to them directly.


  1. Identify friends or family that might be safe to talk with about your situation

  2. Identify someone at school that you feel comfortable talking with like a counselor or social worker (please be aware that some school staff may be required to report to authorities)

  3. Call or text us for support with questions, guidance and services at 463-201-2792

    • Let’s talk about your current situation, your goals and your options

    • Do you need a safety plan?

    • Do you need legal assistance for a protective order or other civil issue?

    • Do you need access to free counseling and support groups?

Our advocate can help you with any of these needs and more.

You’re in charge of your journey, and we are here to help support your decisions.